A bride's gift box in Palestine. Each host must offer her money or gold Credit: Source: Facebook

Each country follows certain marriage customs and traditions that distinguish it from others. Palestinians adhere to their customs and traditions strictly unlike some other countries wherein there’s flexibility.

Any wedding is incomplete without family, friends and loved ones as it occurs only once in a lifetime. In Palestine marriage has several stages; right from choosing the bride. At times the mother can take the responsibility of this task, however if the groom wishes for any particular girl, he can convey the feelings to his mother. The mother of the groom then requests the bride’s family to fix a date to connect with the bride’s father for discussing the proposed marriage which entails the future ties between the two families. The formal meeting involves detailed talks on dowry, house ownership, wedding party and more

There is a special custom when the groom’s family goes to see his bride; the bride offers coffee mixed with salt to the groom family. If the groom drinks it, they consider the relationship affirmative.

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The bride offers salt coffee to the groom

Unlike Indian traditions, here the dowry is given to the bride and all the arrangements are to be done by groom’s family unless the bride wants to help the groom.

After the approval of both families, they go to the Sharia court to arrange a marriage contract with the bride’s consent before the marriage for assurance. This is followed in Islam religion; Christians on the other hand go to the church.

The marital nest is prepared during the engagement period and furnished with beautiful furniture. The bride prepares herself, from arranging clothes to gold. The wedding date is determined by the spouses wherein they fix a time for reserving the wedding hall, distribution of wedding invitation cards, shopping wedding attires for the bride and groom, and booking the bride’s hairdresser.

The author on the mission to sensitize the people of NorthEast of the situation and the grim reality of the happenings in Palestine

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Prior to the big day, the groom arranges a special party for his male friends, with access to private theatre and live folk music, while the dinner is a Palestinian traditional dish (Samakia). The groom’s mother has a ritual to perform; she offers a dish full of flowers and candles, and draws henna (mehendi) on the hand of her son. As for the bride, she arranges a henna party with her girl friends and other women. It is similar to the Indian mehendi ceremony in which the bride’s hands and feet are decorated with drawings of henna; indicating the bond between the bride and her future husband. The ceremony takes place in her home; friends, family, relatives and other women from the neighbourhood dance, sing, and indulge in Samakia.

A groom’s mother holding a big dish full of flowers and candles.

Groom’s bachelor party before the wedding, known as Zafaa in Palestine

During the ceremony, the bride’s family sends her clothes and other useful things to her husband’s home through her mother.

On the morning of the wedding day, sheep are slaughtered by the groom’s family and people are invited over for lunch, and then they decorate the wedding cars.

In the party, the bride wears a unique white dress paired with high heel footwear, and for makeover she goes to a beauty salon. The groom on the other hand wears a formal uniform; most of the time the color is black suit with a white t-shirt and a shining necktie. The groom then goes to pick the bride from the salon, takes to her family’s house to bid farewell, and then to the wedding hall by car. Cakes and a special traditional sweet — Kunafa or Baklava — are treated to the guests.

The day after the wedding party is known as Sabahya

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The bride’s family offers the bride with money and gold like rings and necklaces as a gift. After the day of marriage, specifically the next morning, the bride’s family goes to the spouse’s home to congratulate them.

The event is marked by music and dance celebrations with family, friends, cousins, and people they love . The moments are captured in photos to show their children that they had a great and happy wedding.

In every Palestinian wedding, no matter what, two traditions always remain prominent: importance of family and strong emphasis of hospitality.

(The author is an international intern for EastMojo, from Gaza, Palestine. She is currently pursuing master’s in Mass Communication and Journalism from Tezpur University. She is on the mission to sensitize the people of NorthEast of the situation and the grim reality of the happenings in Palestine)

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